Sunday, February 1, 2009

How Are You?

People are just being polite when they ask "How are you?" Most aren't even being polite. They're being obligatory. [Don't know or care if I used that correctly, but you now what I mean.] Most people when they answer it, simply say "Fine" or "Good" and then the conversation commences.

Friday it would have meant a lot to me if someone had simply asked "How are you?" when I first came online in the afternoon. I would have said, "Fine" and not said any more than that, because I would know the person didn't really want the details of my day. I just wanted to be asked.

I just deleted all the details of why I wanted to be asked because I didn't want to sound like a whiner or that I was trying to get any sympathy. Just, take my word for it. Even if you don't care, always throw out that "How are you" or "How's it going?" The answer you receive may be just as perfunctory, but just asking the question might make a difference to someone.

2 comments:

Purest Green said...

I see your point there. I think most of us are so wrapped up inside our own wee worlds that we are waiting for someone else to ask how we are, and we forget it often feels better to give your energy away, even in a small way in the form of a simple question, than it does to keep on frothing inside our own minds.

I do hope your elbow is healing up.

Pan Historia said...

That's an interesting point. I never considered that just in the asking we can make a connection that might make all the difference to a person.

Mind you - if I ask you how you are, I do expect a genuine answer. I do care how you're doing.

Wyatt at Pan Historia